Travell was one of my good friends from high school. We were in orchestra together, & our orchestra was like a family. But Travell was one of my best friends in that class.
Travell passed away in a car accident on Sunday. We hadn’t spoken in years, but it’s still been really tough to handle. His funeral was yesterday.
It’s amazing what you remember about someone as soon as you find out they’re gone. You remember times you hung out that seemed so unimportant before. You remember the way their voice sounds, the way they laugh, how they were allergic to apple, & how they were born without fingernails on two fingers. You remember them getting annoyed when every substitute teacher pronounced their name as, “Travel.” You remember them asking you to wait for them outside the locker room after their football game, & then being surprised when you actually did. You remember talking on the phone every night until one of your moms got mad, or one of you fell asleep. You remember how they would carry your cello at every orchestra event & let you carry their viola because it was smaller, & getting permission as an underclassman to ride the upperclassman bus so you could hang out with them & your group of friends. You remember the time they spilled juice on their white shirt, & then rubbed a hole in their shirt with a bleach pen trying to get the stain out. You remember all of the seemingly insignificant things that are now all that you have left.
This whole experience has made me realize that I can’t take people for granted. I can’t waste time. Travell was only 23… This could have been anyone. It’s devastating that life can end so quickly.
Reports have said that he was texting & driving, & that he was not wearing a seat belt. He went off the road & was ejected from the car. Guys, please please PLEASE do not use your phones while you’re driving. I’ve said that for a long time, but this just cements it in my mind. Looking down for 2 seconds can change everything, & it’s just not worth it. & I know people complain constantly about seat belts being annoying or uncomfortable, but they can save your life. You can get used to how it feels, I promise. Please just be safe. I saw a church packed full of people yesterday, devastated by the loss of this man. I saw my school’s football players & wrestlers - the tough guys - crying & heartbroken, so confused by this tragedy. I’ve cried more this week than I have in a really long time. He was a nice, caring person. He was not planning on being in an accident that day, but it happened. Think about the potential consequences before you do anything risky. It’s not worth it.
One last thing. Despite the fact that they had lost a family member only 6 days before, Travell’s family was so strong & encouraging because of the faith they share. A few of them spoke during the service, & one thing they all shared was their wish for everyone to come to Christ TODAY. Travell is proof that we don’t know how much time we have here on earth. It was awesome to see a family so focused on Christ, despite their grief. Don’t wait. If any of you want to know more about God, or have questions, or need anything at all, please don’t hesitate to shoot me a message. I don’t share my faith enough; This has been an inspiration to start.
Please be praying for everyone affected by this tragedy. I love you all.